As Christian parents, our first duty is to teach them about God and how to live in this fallen world.
As Christians, we live in a society that is slowly shunning us. Our values are mocked, our God is deemed “old fashioned” or “anti-gay” and the ten commandments are a “suggestion”, not a moral code. It seems that our society, which had once embraced Christianity is running away from the very foundation that made our country great.
But we are not alone. Throughout time, many cultures have turned their back on God and His truth. Remember the story of Sodom and the people that lived there. Let’s not forget Lot and his daughters who were a product of that sinful culture.
People of Sodom were surrounded by sexual sin and could not control themselves. Homosexuality was deemed moral and all other kinds of wickedness was socially acceptable. Lot’s daughters viewed sin as normal, even a way of life. It was all they ever known and experienced when they were growing up.
Our society, much like Sodom has produced children willing to go their own way due to peer pressure. Lot’s daughters are a great example of how children of loving parents can fall to the lure of social pressure and expectations.
Genesis 19: 30-38 provide the example of how society can influence good Christian children to do horrific things.
30 Lot and his two daughters left Zoar and settled in the mountains, for he was afraid to stay in Zoar. He and his two daughters lived in a cave. 31 One day the older daughter said to the younger, “Our father is old, and there is no man around here to give us children—as is the custom all over the earth. 32 Let’s get our father to drink wine and then sleep with him and preserve our family line through our father.” 33 That night they got their father to drink wine, and the older daughter went in and slept with him. He was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up. 34 The next day the older daughter said to the younger, “Last night I slept with my father. Let’s get him to drink wine again tonight, and you go in and sleep with him so we can preserve our family line through our father.” 35 So they got their father to drink wine that night also, and the younger daughter went in and slept with him. Again he was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up. 36 So both of Lot’s daughters became pregnant by their father. 37 The older daughter had a son, and she named him Moab ; he is the father of the Moabites of today. 38 The younger daughter also had a son, and she named him Ben-Ammi ; he is the father of the Ammonites of today.
Sadly, in the same way Sodom was exceedingly evil and in peril of judgment, we too as a nation are nearing the same road leading to judgement. So how do we, as Christian fathers and mothers, protect our children while living in this fallen society? The answer of course is not
This passage tragically illustrates the potential and very real danger of residing within a wicked society. Lot’s two daughters were raised in Sodom, the capital of sexual sin. Lot had by this point been living in Sodom for about 25 years. This was a long time for young and impressionable women to drink in the cultural poison of the time.
Of course, simply living in a wicked society does not inevitably mean that our children will turn out “bad.” Isaac, for example, who grew up in a land filled with Canaanites, turned out quite good.
The problem lies in the degree to which the family unit itself, the parents in particular, assimilates to the surrounding culture, which will impact the children’s spiritual and moral development. In this instance it is borne out by the logical implication that Lot’s wife, the mother of their daughters, was herself from Sodom. This would explain not only why she is mentioned in this chapter for the first time, but also why she “looked back” toward Sodom (v. 26). She was longing for what she did not want to leave, the comfort of the sinful life she led.
For Lot’s daughters, their husbands-to-be were destroyed along with Sodom, and in the absence of any marriage prospects, being “children” of Sodom they were accustomed to sin to get what they wanted. The resulting conceptions and births of the sons Moab and Ben-ammi continue the tragic paradigm
We must always teach our children we are not apart of this world but set aside for something greater. We are God’s children and are to live by His standards and not the standards society sets for us.